Apparently, someone did not like my Valentine's Day Button Heart. So they got VERY personal, attacking me, my projects, and my family. Turns out, Valentine's Day crafts can really provoke people. Who knew.
I've read about this on a lot of other blogs and I've seen a lot of different reactions. Some blow it off, some attack back, and some take it personally and get very defensive. I'm somewhere in the middle. I'm a softy, so mean things sting. But I'm also a big believer in boundaries. So below, I've included my philosophy on negative comments and how I handle them in the hopes that maybe it will be helpful to another blogger out there.
1. My blog, my house.
If people come to my house and are hateful to me or my family, I make them leave. Same applies for my blog. Nasty, personal attacks get deleted. Period. Borderline nasty comments get deleted. Sometimes, respectfully critical comments that I'm not in the mood to read get deleted. You know why? Because it's my blog, I can do what I want.
Isn't it funny how 99.9% of hateful comments are anonymous? People who post hateful comments anonymously are cowards, plain and simple. I have no respect for that so I'm certainly not going to allow their comment to take up space on my blog. If you're bold enough to say it, be bold enough to sign your name to it.
3. "I disagree."
I've had a few comments in the past that were critical that I've left up. I'm fine with constructive criticism (keyword "constructive") and ok with negative feedback, as long as it's respectful. My usual response to someone who disagrees with me is a simple "I disagree" or I don't respond at all. If I feel like my message has been misunderstood, I ask them to email me so that I can clarify.
4. Not everyone is going to like me.
And I'm completely ok with that. If everyone liked me all of the time, then I'm living a lie. Of course I would love for everyone who came across this blog to love it but that's just not going to happen. Good news is, there are plenty of people who do and for that I am very grateful:)
So what about you? How do you handle ugly comments?
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